WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE?

Sorry for your loss Admin. Fuck if I know why some of us are dealt the hand we are dealt- but bottom line is all we can do is deal with it. Chin up, carry on.

It is a tragedy and so sad. My eyes are swollen and I’ve been crying all morning. But I can say that there are some positives to take away from this. First was that she was truly inspirational to others during her fight. The things she wrote and said were amazing. Always positive, always grateful for her family and friends, and she actually comforted others. She was a beautiful , strong loving person. An example for all to try to be. She had many, many people who loved her, just the kind of person that everyone wanted to be around.

Ok, back to crying again….

Admin,
Sorry for your families tragic loss.

But what kind of God would allow this? All the injustice? All the unfairness? The one ad only God creator and absolute master of all the Universe and all things seen and not seen? That’ who even if a man can have no possible knowledge of who or what exactly God is.

How can evil and injustice exist if not by the authority of God who is the creator and the absolute power? To me that answer is simple and almost the only conclusion one can make if one actually reads the Bible. ( I mean every word from start to finish without authorities interpretation and manipulation of what it really tells us) That answer is that since God is the master and creator of all things he is the the master of all things good and all things wicked. He is the loving and protective Father Almighty and the dark evil Monster. God who ever he may be or what you call him is the balance of all things. With out one thing the other thing could not exist. When bad things happen to me or those I love it hurts greatly. But there is some comfort and consolation in the understanding that for ever moment of pain and misery suffered by one there must be and equal amount of joy and comfort felt by someone else somewhere. Bad does not prevail, Good does not conquer as one can only only exist if the other does.

First I’d like to express my condolences for the you and your families tragic loss. It breaks my heart to hear of one passing as such a young age with so much life left to live. I truly believe that this mortal equation of life is merely a stepping stone to another better dimension of reality.

That said, I like to offer that life and death happens to us all, regardless of character or lack thereof.
Bad things happen to bad people and good people equally and vice versa.

We’ve all lost and will suffer loss as long as we are amongst the living.It never seems right nor fair and mere words can never make it less painful, but hopefully there are some than make it more understandable.

Again my deepest heartfelt sympathies for Jen and family.

Matthew 5:45

King James Version (KJV)

45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

Jim,

So very sorry to hear this. She sounds like an amazing woman.

Life is not fair. I tell myself that often and oddly enough it gets me through most of the time.

My thoughts and prayers, EF

Admin and Avalon sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and her families.
Bob.

Jim and Avalon,

You will be in my thoughts and prayers tonight and in the coming days. Take care.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I’m very sorry for your loss.

I am sure God is holding Jen in the palm of His hand.

Our sincere love and condolences to you and your family.
No words will erase the pain and grief you must go through now.
Now is not the time for theological expositions.
Grieve your loss.
Remember how bright she shined while you had her present.
Resolve to assist the widower in rearing those beautiful kids.
God will sort out the rest….
One day at a time… my friend.

Much love and prayer for you.

You mean so much to so many….

Stand to fight another day.

my aunt died of ovarian cancer at a relatively young age. she left behind 3 young girls. her youngest, a boy of 2 or 3 died as kids in Juarez often die of dysentery. she never said much about her illness, such things are not discussed as freely over there as here. when she finally went to the ‘seguro’ or public hospital, she was in good spirits laughing and talking with her sisters about famous people. then she reflected, look at me, i’m dying and engaging in gossip. after she died my grandfather said, I dreamt that Lupita (she was named after him) had gathered up her son and they went out the front door and I watched them walking down the street without looking back.

my brother Daniel was upset, I can’t believe no one knew what she was going through, she could have been receiving at the very least, palliative care.

it breaks our heart to hear of your family’s loss, I mean the readers of this site, I see how they begin to reflect on life and the land beyond, the far country. God bless you with strength to carry on.

I am so sorry for your loss, words are inadequate and understanding elusive.

Administrator,

Why do bad things happen to good people, like your niece, Jen? I wish I knew and had an answer. Maybe others do but, from what I’ve read and know about life, I’m little help.

Chance pretty much has its way with us, or so it seems. These days we’re more lucky than our ancestors, but sometimes not.

As for “What kind of God would inflict this kind of pain and suffering on a young sweet mother?” From what you’ve written about yourself and from what I infer about Jen, I assume you are a Christian Catholic and she was too. I’ve read more than most about the Judeo-Christian God, His interests, and His actions. Your God would not have done that to her. There are other answers.

Years ago someone told me that God was ominiscent and omnipotent. They said that nothing in this world happened that God didn’t know about and cause to happen or influence. My reading and experience refutes that claim. Smart people convinced me of the existence of the Devil. Whether evil and misfortune is Scratch’s spawn or has another source, I don’t know. I’m still thinking about it. But I do know that the Devil, the Fates, and Chance seem to be as powerful in their way as God is in his.

Your neice, like your father-in-law, Ray Romano, who you wrote about so generously earlier in June, lived shortened lives, hers much less than his. In my family, what you wrote about Jen I could have been written about my mother. She died when I was in my mid twenties. Like Jen and your father-in-law, my mother lost years of her life, less than Jen, more than Ray. Like Jen, my mother left three children.

For my mother’s sake and my dad’s I wish she would have lived 41 years longer, the time he survived her. More for my two younger brothers than me, her longer life would have helped. Nevertheless my mother’s memory is her life. Though dead, for me she’s been a continuing presence. That’s been a powerful motivating factor in my life. Wanting to make my mother proud of me, her son, has always been on my mind.

So it should be for Jen. You wrote, “She was a sweet girl. She was a loving mom. She was a dedicated wife…. for her three children.” What Jen’s children learn about their mom will have to be passed along by you and your extended family. Family close, family having ideals, family, like Jen for her children especially, serving as good examples, and family looking out for each other… Those who’ve succeeded in our family have had those benefits. Take charge, do it for Jen’s children, yours and the others in your family and you’ll forever feel good about it.